Dealing With Problems | Tips ♡

Hey guys :) basically, we all have those shitty times that we don't know how to deal with. for example, not knowing what to do when upset, not knowing what to do with anger and not knowing how to handle fall outs, break ups and certain situations.
Now, I'm no expert.. I get into pretty bad states my self, THIS ISN'T THE BEST ADVICE IN THE WORLD, I'm not some sort of professional psychologist, these are just some tips I've learned and been told :) 


1. WORRYING ABOUT A RECENT SITUATION
Have you just fallen out with a friend? Done something you regret? Think about it this way- What you're worrying about now- will you still be worrying about it in a few weeks time? will you still be worrying about it in a years time? when you're on your death bed thinking your final thoughts will you be thinking over this situation? No. These are the points you need to consider, if it is a real big issue you are worried about, you need to talk to somebody to clear things up. For example, if you think that you've done something wrong to a friend and can't stop worrying, ask them about it- if they say no, you have a big sigh of relief and you can stop worrying. if the answer is yes, take this opportunity to apologise or make the situation right. Life is too short to spend it worrying about everything!

2. GETTING OVER A BREAK-UP OR FALL OUT WITH A FRIEND
Break-Up
Break Up's can be hard, you can't stop thinking about the person and all the good times you'd had, STOP RIGHT THERE. Take a moment to think about all the bad things that happened and the reason why you's broke up; it might make you realise the break up wasn't even the worst thing that could happen, and maybe the break up is just a blessing in disguise and try to think about all the things you can do now that you were maybe restricted from doing before (no, that does not mean sleep around a be a whore). Perhaps the other person cheated? Remember, that person is low and not mature enough for a relationship therefore you deserve better and you can be reassured knowing you're a way better person. Perhaps you cheated on them? Well suck it up because you did wrong! If you were accused of something you didn't do and the other person left you because of it then it's not worth it, trust is what makes a relationship work, so if people break up because of rumours then there isn't trust there. 
Fall Out With a Friend
First of all- think about why you fell out in the first place. Was it a serious, vital reason? or was it just stupid? If it was a serious reason, try and talk it through with them to resolve the issue, if that fails then you's are probably better off not being friends if something dramatic has happened. If it was something stupid, you or them are not a real friend. Like a break-up, think about how they treated you and how much you could really trust them, that gives you an idea on how much of a real friend they really were and could prove that you probably don't need them in your life. If you's just grew apart and stopped speaking, then you's aren't meant to be friends. It's probably because you's have nothing in common any more, and if you's aren't going to make the effort with each other, then that isn't being a true friend. You have to just remind yourself that throughout your life you are always going to have fall outs and you are not going to get along with everybody, and you will always be meeting new people. 

3. SELF CONFIDENCE
Self confidence is a tough one, it's easy to just say, 'be happy with the way you are' because I know myself that that's quite difficult. Always remind yourself that you have friends that like you the way you are, your family are happy with the way you are and you could even be with somebody that loves you the way you are. I know the perfect video for this particular topic: click here

4. ANGER
We all get really really angry when we don't know where to put ourselves and all we want to do is beat the shit out of something. There are a few things we can do to deal with it.
#1 - Write in a diary or something exactly what is bothering you and how you feel about it and write down everything that you want it to say, it could help you get things off your chest. 
#2 - When you feel like you're about to go crazy, grab a piece of paper and a pencil and scribble all over it as hard and as fast as you want to, it works the same as hitting something it just causes less damage.
#3 - When you feel like you're about to explode, sit down, close your eyes and count to 50, it helps you to relax and possibly distracts your mind.
#5 - Meditation! put on some spiritual music and sit in meditation for at least 10 minutes, you can think over your problems in a calm way and simply banish them.